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俺はガキの時分価値観の非常にデリケートな部分が周囲と致命的にズレていて、そこから生まれる軋轢に多少の苦労をした。つねに苛ついていたし、攻撃的で、「非常識な奴だな死ね」と「君はよく考えているねえ凄いよ」以外のコメントをいつも求めていた。(後者なんか「あっそ」と同義じゃねえか。)だから俺がでかくなって、そんな子供をみつけたら手厚くしてやろうと心に誓っていた。
とまあちと語っちまったが、そんな奴を見かけたんで手厚くしてやったハナシ。
こういうタイプの子供は、自分は周囲の連中よりもまともにモノを考えられると信じている。だが周囲はそいつを畏れてか面倒だからか、袖にするので本人としては「アレ? 俺が悪いのか?」と混乱し、ともすれば自傷に走っちまうわけだ。はたして「俺」は悪いのか。実はその通りで、なにが悪いって結局周囲が一番悪いと考えているところだ。この不満はマズローの欲求階層でいうところの承認欲求からきているのだから、「悪いのは俺を認めない周りの連中だ」と考えていることは間違いない。
だが認めない限り認められるわけないのである。どうして自分のことをバカだと思っている奴を手放しで認められようか。だからまずは「私のハナシを聞いてくれない!」という奴には「お前のハナシに付き合ってやるだけでも時間を使うし、その時間のぶんだけ大人は仕事ができないわけだがそれはどうなんだ? 大人にはその義務があるとでも?」みたいなことをオブラートでくるみまくって叩きつけてやる必要がある。相手の立場にたって考えてみるということを知らせてやるのだ。こういうのを視野の拡大という。
続きは会話ログの丸コピペだが、相手を立てつつひとつの気付きに導いてやるということには若干の自信があるので似たような指針の持ち主の参考になればと思って。いやなげーよバカという方は一番最後だけ見ていただければいいかもしらん。ちょくちょくギャグが挟まれるのは仕様。
視野が広いってのは、他人の価値観をわかろうと努力したり、物事のいろんな面を見ようと試みることだ。それをものぐさがるなら、「大人は何もわかってくれない」なんて言うべきじゃない。(てか説得力がない。)
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Midori
hello hello Bucresti is rainy now its so cool(rece) feel good
An
hei hei! here is raining too.
Midori
i like rain in night
An
yeah, me too. the rain sound in night is so relaxing
Midori
i agree at all yes
today was talking to Anna your friend
An
what is she saying?:) i miss her
Midori
she's.. .. your mother's friend's relative, right? i don't remember very well
An
does she told you? :))
yeah, she is
Midori
yep she did
An
we're different
Midori
what you mean?
An
she's in other way than i am
Midori
in this meaning, who is same as you?:)
An
nobody
we all are different. there's no person who is the same as other person and there's no person who can understand other person perfectly
and i think you know :))
Midori
oh, you know it? right. besides i know that in another meaning people all around the world are almost same too.
An
in my perspective all the people in this world have to be equal. but we aren't at all. we look different, we act different we have different lives etc. the only thing that make us the same is that we all are humans. we look human and act like that(i mean, we act like humans in a different way)
Midori
it was hard to explain how same we all are. but now i learned from you. it's human-tic things. Thx An-chan. all humans are ugly in one meaning. this fact sometimes cheer us up.
An
no need to thank, if you ask anyone else you will hear other opinion than mine
Midori
it may be.
An
humans are the wrost..
Midori
(i think you wanted to say WORST)
An
a, sorry :))
Midori
if we are, what you do?
An
nothing..
so.. i would say that i hate humans but i don't hate myself, i don't hate you, i don't hate people that i agree with.. i'm a paradox :))
Midori
i have a hint about it. "i hate humans" this sentence confuses you. in fact what you hate is certain part of humans. human is not human. human is mass of a lot of parts or pieces.
you know?
An
about human evolution...? i don't have a definite theory for this.
Midori
evolution? i didn't mention about it. i don't understand why you got such a thought.
tell me where did you feel about evolution.
An
you said "human is mass of a lot of parts or pieces."
did i get it wrong..
i think so..
i'm so in a fag
Midori
fog:)
An
fuck
Midori
:))
An
seriously, what's wrong with meeeeeee:)))
don't pay atention
Midori
attention:))))
An
GOD!
:)))))
i didn't drink anything, i swear:))
so, can you explain "human is mass of a lot of parts or pieces."?
i understood it wrong
Midori
of course. return to the point.
i meant that everything consist of beautiful part, ugly part, interesting part smt like these. to say concretely, have parts: to like covrigi, to be a egoist, to be good at thinking about philosophy bla bla bla.
An
to like covrigi:))
covrigi is that covrigi in romanian, right?:))
Midori
right.
An
do you like them?:))
Midori
yes i do. therefore, what you hate are only ugly part of humans(of course this "ugly" is different depend on each person).
if you think so, your opinion doesn't have paradox.
An
yeah..i think you right
thank you
Midori
cpl
as you know, why you don't dislike me and yourself is we don't have parts that you don't like. i think you understand now.
An
i don't know if i dislike you because i don't know your bed parts. i know my bed parts so i half-dislike me
but we all have bad parts
BAD***
i love people who also have bad parts. but it means that I accept them
Midori
i don't mean i force you my opinion. but i recommend you not to think "i like YOU, HIM, someone". this sentence makes you get that "humans is humans".
An
know what to say if i cannot say "i like you, him" etc
i'm so confused with me now
Midori
you don't have to refrain to say it in conversations of course. try it when you think.
you can speak "i hate him" but think in your brain "i hate his these parts".
An
i will think more and reread what you said tomorrow
aaa. yes
i got it
like.. you love someone but hate some parts of that person but it doesn.t means that you really hate that person
Midori
yup you got it.
i believe this perception helps you a lot for construct own theories. but i don't force it! well in other words, i always pay attention not to be a pushy person.
An
aaaa. no. you're not
you are smart so you are helpful
i will make an idea from what you said
Midori
i'm glad to hear it. i also think i'm not:) but cuz i'm good at speaking such a topic so sometime i look oppressive.
An
i will become as smart as you
Midori
hehe i hope so.
An
and "modest" as you :))
Midori
hihi it is one of my "good part".
An
i like all your parts so don't worry :)))
Midori
how old r u? 15? i don't think i thought this much deeply when i was.
i was always just irritated by surroundings i remember.
An
i am 15 that's why i want to show that a kid can understands things too
what am i talking about. i. am. not. a. kid.
but i am :))
Midori
i agree that a kid can understands things too. but i don't agree you're not kid. don't be angry i ll explain
An
i won.t be angry. i also agree with "i am a kid"
but i fucking hate it
Midori
who is bad are adults. they don't accept some kids may be smarter than them.
An
that.s why i hate beeing kid
Midori
their insistence may be that they have a lot of experiences. and it's of course right. the problem is that they are lazy to be modest and to explain their theory to kids(=to summarize their thought systematically as kids can understand).
An
don't be like them
Midori
and we may not be able to blame them. cuz they surely are busy of their stuff. so it can't be helped.
An
i mean, you already showed, you're not
Midori
yes i'm not. but plz don't think "it's good"
"it's good for me" is correct. everyone has his own perceptions and situations.
yes they you say about is bad "for you".
his "this part" is bad "for you".
An
yeah..
Midori
for example... i like this my modest part but sometimes it is bad for me.
when i must finish my homework!! i don't finish my work for tomorrow! omg!!
An
thank you.
i am not able to think that much yet
Midori
you can build it.
An
da..
i'm so out of answers:))
Midori
this is called broad view: to try to understand other's perceptions and to try to see other aspects of things.
if i'm lazy to do this, i mustn't say like "adults don't accept me!" i think.
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まとめると、「大人は理不尽だ」という主張に対し「あれ? 俺の怒りも意外と理不尽っていうか道理にかなってなかったんじゃね?」と気付かせてやるってことだ。うまくリードしてやれば確実に悟る。こういう連中は理に適ってる適ってないに人一番敏感だからな。俺はいくどもぶん殴られぶん殴って挙句自分で気付いたが、まあ、早いうちに気付きを得るのも悪いことばかりじゃあるまい。あとハナシにも出てきたがこの娘、15歳。英語のクラスが始まってからわずか2年。ユーロピアンマジパネエ。
